Here too, the preferences of those involved can vary greatly. It is similar in implementation and execution, e.g. on the bottom, in sexual and punitive spanking. However, you should clarify your preferences well in advance so as not to destroy the magic of the game.

Especially in punishing spanking, the role that you distinguish, for example, with 2 names (punisher and at eye level) that you take on can kick you incredibly. Don’t say ‘Take the cane,’ but beg the person performing the punishment not to take the cane, to let them know that you are now ready for the cane.
We will now discuss the different approaches in more detail.

BEFORE

As a rule, the recipient’s bottom is prepared by making it “warm”. This is done by very slowly increasing the impact on the buttocks within the comfort zone, the passive. This achieves the following:
– Stimulates blood circulation and releases endorphins
– Makes the subsequent punishment less painful
– Leaves fewer marks or ensures that they disappear more quickly
– Minimises the risk of injury
When spanking as a form of punishment, there is no need to warm up, as punishment is not meant to be enjoyable. In both cases, however, some people want to feel the full pain and proudly bear their marks for a long time to come.

Execution

To warm up, you like to place the recipient over your knees and start to lightly slap his clothed bottom with your hand. After a while, you lustfully pull down their pants or pull up their skirt until their bottom is exposed in front of you.

Now continue with your hand on your bare bottom and start to increase the intensity. Here you can now use some tools, such as a paddle, wooden spoon, hairbrush or similar, to add emphasis to the blows.

Intermezzo (interlude)

Here you can now ask the one to be chastised to stand in the corner of the room, with his back to you, and slowly undress completely or free himself underneath. This can be very appealing or pleasure-enhancing for both.

The person who has to stand in the corner almost physically feels the looks on their bum and is ashamed or feels humiliated that they have to present themselves naked in front of someone else. Both increase the performer’s lust and he can hardly wait to work this butt hard.

But wait, let the one to be chastised stand in the corner for a moment so that his imagination is so aroused that the coming chastisement is seen more as salvation and his bottom is already stretched out expectantly towards you. Then you pull it over the edge of the table, for example, so that your bum is bent in an ideal and sexy way, which also prevents you from hitting too high.

In sexual spanking, it may be that it has reached this point and you now move on to sexual practices or other types of fetish play.

IN THE PROCESS

In addition to the usual procedures such as,

– Do not strike above the buttocks (NoGo)
– Do not strike the thighs unless desired
– Strike slowly so that the pain can be breathed away
– Take breaks after a certain number of strikes
– Stroke the buttocks soothingly during breaks
– Use the recipient’s favourite punishment instruments
– Spread the game over several sessions
– Long, sustained, even strikes to possibly reach subspace, where you no longer feel any pain. See also flying lesson

something else that frees you from all conventions. Uninhibited, totally sensual spanking.
This often causes the recipient to accept everything sensually and go beyond their limits. This non-verbal desire shows the performer that you want more and can be emphasised by stretching your bottom out to meet the blows. Since the whole thing is based on mutual lust, it is also largely impossible for one of the two to lose control.

AFTER

Also known as aftercare and refers to the mutual support after a session. Here, too, this can be desired in very different ways. Among other things,

– gently stroking the areas that have been punished
– applying cream to the areas that have been punished
– discussing and reflecting on the experience
– showing physical affection, such as holding the other person in your arms
– sexual acts are of course possible and can be very intense for both partners

The aim is to counter feelings of shame as best as possible and to signal to the nervous system that “you are safe“. This does not only have to apply to the period afterwards, but can also be useful over a longer period of time.